De Manosphere Is Geen Mannelijkheid

De Manosphere Is Geen Mannelijkheid

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0I don't believe in the manosphere. Okay, that's maybe a little bit strange to say, but I don't believe in boxes or templates. That's why this is called No Template. But I saw the documentary The Manosphere from Louis Theroux and my first reaction was what a bunch of toddlers. All of them.

0And to be honest, in this whole documentary I didn't see one real man. No one. It's not about real full grown masculinity. They all are toddlers in a way. And to be honest, I didn't even see one real man as like a good role model in the whole documentary and I find that very interesting.

0And I even mean Louis Theroux. He doesn't appear as the good real man, the role model that boys need. And I think that's a problem because when you do a documentary like that, I believe it's best if you are a real man. And yeah, my first reaction what what a bunch of toddlers is is correct because All these men with their fancy suits, fancy cars, all their outside success. Of course, it attracts boys.

0If they say the things they say when you're a boy from 16, 17 years old. Of course it sounds amazing to say things like that, have so much power, Have really nice cars. Have a lot of women around you. It's like the jet set superstar life. Of course, that's attracting boys.

0It's pretty normal and that they keep talking like this and keep filming like this. It's just because when you have power. They obtained power when they are not real men, So they are boys and they obtained a lot of power and you just want to keep the power. Your brain changes physically. It's really like that when you receive a lot of power.

0You will do everything to keep it. And it's just a change in your brain not to talk it right in any way, but I understand because they are are still boys. They are still acting as children. And to be honest, I believe we need to move to society that a lot of men, as normal role models, start to shoot more videos. And Not only videos.

0We need to do, I believe, is to have the conversation with each other about, okay, what is a real man? When are you a real man? How do you act as a real man? What do you do as a father? How do you act as a partner?

0How do you act when being a friend? I believe that's so important and that's something we miss. We miss the good conversations from normal good beings as a man. Because I believe when there is more of that, it's much easier to understand for boys what it is to be a real man and how amazing that is. Because these these boys, They are so successful.

0But they only celebrate it in their head. They are. Distached from their feeling. It's it's not good. You you don't have a fulfilled life from living in your head.

0I did it. I was a DJ. I stood on the podium with thousands of people in front of me, but I didn't feel anything. If you feel, really feel deep, it's the most rich life you can have. And of course, still, when you have a successful life with nice people around you.

0And of course, then you have the life with enough money to travel, to see the world, to have nice experiences. Then you can say I'm successful. Just money is is empty. Just having a lot of money is empty when you don't feel it. When you don't feel connection deeply within yourself, with your partner, with your children.

0It's an empty life, man. It's really empty. And I know because I was there. I had the outside success. I was not a world famous DJ, but here in The Netherlands I stood at Podia with, like I said, thousands of people.

0Some music of mine was played on national radio. Some radio shows of mine were played worldwide. I had that success, but to think about success is not to feel about success. To think is like this and to feel is like everything behind me. So deep it can be where you really start feeling.

0And I believe that's the key for men to feel amazing, to have an amazing life. But it's so important that we talk about this with each other. I believe that's the key to talk about it and to start feeling. And to understand while talking with each other what it is to be a good person, good man or women or who you are. It doesn't matter.

0And find good and nice role models who have a fulfilling life, not a blown up toddler life.