Your Feelings Are Sabotaging Your Success

Welcome to the Paul Vette podcast for high performers who know 90 percent is not an option. Did you know that you can determine what you feel? Maybe you have some feelings about that too. AI might not immediately agree with that. It says no no, that makes no sense, you have a trigger and from that trigger, boom, automatic feeling and from that feeling automatically an action. And that's true, because here in the now you can't change that. That's how it is. And when I talk about feeling, it's important to realize that it's not directly a grand feeling. Not sadness or fear or a feeling of doubt that really completely takes over your stomach. No, feeling is a subtle thing. That can already cause a certain action. Of course also anger from powerlessness or disbelief. That can also happen, which you sometimes experience in traffic for example. But often it's a subtle thing and you don't even realize that a feeling arises in you that causes you to perform a certain action. But you're watching this video because you want to learn to perform different actions. How do I know that? You're only watching the video to grow and you grow as a being, as a person, by performing different actions, because then you end up somewhere different than where you are now. Simple as that. In the here and now, trigger feeling action is correct, for sure. But what AI doesn't take into account, it can't think ahead yet, it can only generate logical words based on your input, you can reprogram it. You can namely program what feeling arises based on a trigger. And that's super valuable, because the moment you want to grow as a high performer, you want to start doing something different than what you're doing now to end up somewhere different than where you are now, then you need to adjust your actions. And that's nice, but you probably already know what you need to do to get there, but you don't do it. Or you don't even know it because that feeling prevents you from wanting to know. Simple as that. Because it's very easy nowadays, you can just enter where you are at your point, whether you're an artist, entrepreneur or top athlete, you can just enter it into AI and then ask Okay what are my next steps? Ask me my first 10 questions to see where I am now and what's relevant now. Then it just comes up with the next steps, the new strategy, the new actions you need to perform. It's right there, but you don't do it. Why not? Because there's feeling in between. Then we're just talking about the next level you only reach by performing a necessary action. And you only don't do that because there's a feeling of fear or doubt underneath. So you only need to adjust that you react differently to a trigger. The moment you actually know what you should do, but you don't do it, then there's a certain feeling underneath. And that's very valuable for yourself to investigate. How do you find out? By simply looking, enter into AI. Okay, this is where I am now, this is where I want to go, what are the required actions? And with each of those actions you feel something. Either no no, that's not for me. Or no, no, no, no, that doesn't suit me. I don't do that. Or ooh, yes, I know, I should actually do it, but Well yeah, those kinds of actions. You can see from my body language too if you're watching this episode, that I physically react when I have those thoughts. And that's how you simply expose what feeling lies underneath. The moment that feeling lies underneath, then you need to reprogram that. That you to that trigger for example is one of the strategies right, hey, go speak for groups. One of the most well-known fears for people. People find that more nerve-wracking than dying generally. Maybe that doesn't apply to you, but speaking for groups. If that comes out, you ignore it. Why? No, no, that's not for me. No, I don't flourish well in groups. You have all kinds of excuses ready. Why? Simply because your entire being doesn't want to have that feeling. So you're going to avoid. And that's where your biggest opportunities lie within everything, because I believe you're already at a certain level. And if you want to get further, the opportunities only lie in the part you're now ignoring, what you're now avoiding. And that fear lies underneath. So you just need to resolve that fear. Which could be a very simple way that can already help you besides working with me. You can also just send me a message and then we'll do an intake together and then we'll see. Okay, are we a match? But what you can also do is imagine yourself being where you want to be. So just imagine, it helps to close your eyes. Don't do that if you're operating a vehicle of course, but close your eyes. And imagine I am where I want to be. So in my case, I want to have guided 1 million people to their highest potential in 2032. I imagine, okay I'm there. From that identity that can carry that, I look sort of back to this moment. Now it's June 2025. And if I then look at what things are necessary, what steps have been necessary to get here? I'm now speaking from the future, that's why the word here. I'm now standing in 2032 with that identity. What steps have been necessary to get here? Okay and if I then look back at 2025, which of those steps did I find exciting to perform? Well, then you're already exposing it on the one hand and on the other hand you're already speaking in past tense. Did I find exciting to perform? The moment you more often stand in that identity, in my case the identity of Paul from 2032, then you connect yourself to someone who has already overcome those fears. If you do that daily, then something beautiful happens in your brain of course. Because suddenly your brain learns that you no longer find it exciting to do those things, because you've already done them. And what happens then if you do this regularly? Preferably every day, and then you just do 30 to 60 days in a row, very briefly though. The trigger evokes a different feeling. Namely not the feeling 'no I find that exciting, so I don't do it'. More trigger, feeling, hey would that be something for me? And that curiosity, that wonder is the opposite of fear and then you move forward. And that's what I wish for you. So this exercise is extremely powerful, repeat it every day and that's how you can also adjust your feeling. Super simple, super effective. Did you find this valuable? Then share it with other high performers. For those who also don't settle for average. --- This transcript has been translated from Dutch.